Late Night Rant About Love, Affection, Expectations, and the Friend Zone.

How do I put girls in the friend zone? I am who I am. When I try and get closer to them, all I get is a, " You're more of a brother then anything."

Frustrating as hell. I can't ever have a deep, personal, tender relationship with anyone because they all keep me at a distance. Sure, I know every detail of their love life, social life, personal life. I could tell what any girl I know's favorite colors are, what their favorite movie was, I almost know them better then they know themselves.

But there is a brick wall around those I like the most that I can't get over.

The ones I want further the connection with, get to know how they think, what they feel,why they act, what makes them tick, what they like to talk about in a dark room alone.

But I'm always kept at arm's length.

I can't figure out why. I mean, I guess I'm just too good a guy for everyone. There's no risk involved in me. I won't mess around, I won't pick fights over stupid crap, I have a small list of expectations for her, and there's nothing sexual on it. There's no "If you really loved me, you would do this." No. All I expect is she hear me out when I have something to say, she doesn't expect me to be perfect, and that she lets me know, in plain language, when and if I fucked up and how. And then using that information, I will endeavor to fix whatever it is.

Back to the sex thing. Being an atheist, I think the "save sex for marriage" is noble, and for some people, a life descision, but I personally don't think that way.

That being said, I don't expect sex. It's nice, it reaffirms feelings, it's the ultimate intimacy, but I don't expect it. If she doesn't want to, it's not happening. She must completely willingly give it up for me to even consider it. She calls the shots in that area. I know someone who wasn't ready, but her bf pulled the "if you really loved me..." card, and she wanted to please him so much she did. She is now a broken wreck. I don't want to do that to anyone.

But it doesn't look like anything is going anywhere in that direction for me. Well, what can I say.

 

Love bites.